Sunday, September 28, 2008

First Football Game

Debbie took Luca to his first football game. Jacksonville Jaguars vs. the Houston Texans. They don't know who won because Luca had his full by half-time and - Debbie reports - he preferred to ride the escalators over watching the rest of the game.

Saturday, September 27, 2008



Went to see Margaret Cho at the Florida Theater in Jacksonville last night. As usual, she was brilliant and hysterical. I even peed myself a little. I think I might have anyway, even if I wasn't swollen with child.

Liam Sullivan opened for her and performed "Shoes" live. I like the video better... (beware of F-bombs towards the end)

Wednesday, September 24, 2008

Adventures of a Super Hero

Super Hero.

Super Hero making a small costume change.

"I have to save Douglas the Dog!"

"Follow me!"

Watch as the brave and daring Super Hero scales the safety bar that is still installed on his mommies' bed, even though he made the transition to his own bed months ago.

Watch as the Super Hero throws us his super side-long glance as he saves Douglas AND friends (bonus saves).

But first, a post-save picture.

It's so hard to stay still, especially when the Super Hero's mother is trying not to use a flash.

"Look, I don't have time for this. There are other things that need rescuing, for cripe's sake"

And, he's off.

Stayed tuned for upcoming adventures...

Juvenile Delinquents

We met with friends at Starbucks late this morning, sat on the outside patio and enjoyed the first non-humid day on recent record. The kids played nicely for the most part, aside from some sharing issues involving finger puppets and small plastic frogs. At one point, my friend and I had been talking for a bit when it occurred to us that the kids (ages 3, 3 and 2) had been under the table for awhile and were being a little too quiet. When we looked, we discovered that they had been drawing on the brick patio with crayons. Nice. After serving individual time-outs in opposing chairs, the three-year olds each went in separately and confessed their wrong-doings to the employees inside. They knew that they shouldn't have drawn on the ground with crayons and they handled taking responsibility for their actions very well. The whole thing became really comical, though - especially the mumbled confessions. But, we managed to get through it all - with lessons learned (for the moment, anyway) and a nice late morning play date to start the day. 

Tuesday, September 23, 2008


Practicing his name...

Windy day...

Fun at the Splash Park...

Hola, Mr. Cranky Pants / Time for a nap...

Monday, September 22, 2008

Lunchtime with Phoebe

We had a lunch-time playdate with Phoebe - also known as Xiao Yue. You can read about her amazing journey here.

Phoebe is scrumptious and edible and Luca - despite the fact that he kept taking his car people from her today - loves her and talks about her all the time. She also happens to be the younger sister of his favorite "big-boy" pal - Isaac.

Phoebe has just started to master "the crawl" and she's already saying a few words. We are looking forward to spending lots of time with her and to continuing to watch her grow.

Fighting the Cavity Creeps

Luca had a dentist appointment today. Just a check-up and a cleaning. He loves going to Dr. Myers' office. He gets to wear sunglasses in the chair and hold "Mr. Thirsty" - that saliva-sucking tube thing. He remembered his good experience from last time and was looking forward to it all morning. He left the office with no cavities, a new toothbrush, a prize from the machine and a willingness to floss. 

Saturday, September 20, 2008

Happy Adoption Day!

Today is the second anniversary of Debbie's legal adoption of Luca. We were living in New York at the time - a state that allows same-sex adoptions. Debbie procured a Second-Parent Adoption:

Definition: Second parent adoption is a legal procedure that allows same-sex couples (gay and lesbian parents) to adopt their partner's biological or adopted children without terminating the first parent's right as a parent. Second parent adoptions give the child two legal guardians. It protects both parents by giving both of them legally recognized parental status.

Not all states allow second-parent adoptions. Some states don't allow gays and lesbians to adopt at all. Both Ohio (where Luca was born) and Florida (where we lived before having children and where we live now) expressly prohibit all Gays and Lesbians from adopting under any and all circumstances. 

Besides the obvious, there are a number of things about laws such as these which are unfair, unconstitutional and just plain scary. During the time that we lived in Ohio after Luca's birth, I always thought about the risk of what would happen to him and what would happen to Debbie's relationship to him if anything happened to me. Here are a just few examples of what would have happened if I had croaked while living in Cincinnati:

- Luca would have had NO legal status 
- Debbie would have had NO legal right to take custody or care for Luca
-Debbie would not have been able to make any medical decisions for Luca
- Debbie would not have been able to register Luca for school

Not to mention taxes, social security benefits, health insurance, etc. The list goes on. 

So - here we are, pregnant again. And, guess what? - We are back to where we were pre-adoption. This baby will be even more unprotected in Florida than he would have been in Ohio - which at least offers some sort of weakened version of  co-parenting status to couples like us. 

There was, though, a recent case in Florida that makes us somewhat hopeful. In Miami, a circuit court judge ruled in favor of a gay man who filed to adopt a boy he had been fostering. The judge ruled that Florida's ban on gay adoption was unconstitutional and allowed the adoption to go through. This is big. As far as I know, no one has appealed the ruling yet. The fact that there is now a case on record claiming the state ban unconstitutional is a huge victory for Gay Family Rights in the state of Florida. You can read a bit about the case here

We've made a decision to have Debbie file for adoption soon after this baby is born. Right here in the sunny state of Florida. We'll keep you posted. 

Thursday, September 18, 2008

Better Than A Morning Cup of Coffee to Get You Going

Pulling out of the drive this morning, I discovered that SOMEONE STOLE OUR OBAMA SIGN. And two of our neighbor's signs, too.

The Democrat Headquarters doesn't open until noon. As soon as they do, I am going over there and buying a ton of signage - to give away AND to use as back-ups for us.

If it happens again, I am putting the baby video monitor that my dad just bought us to use. I'll hook that thing up on my front porch and keep watch all night if I have to.

I'm seriously ticked off. Of course, it's not surprising. We do, after all, live in a very conservative and very religious small (minded) city.

I am hoping that this is an isolated incident. The work of annoying pranksters. But, if it continues, at least I'll be prepared.

24 weeks, 5 days

Went for an ultrasound this morning. Everything looks good with the baby. I am 24 weeks and 5 days - and he is measuring right on target.

In other news - Luca just had a small accident which I discovered with my bionic olfactory powers.

According to his teacher, Luca had a good day at school except for a short-lived tantrum involving a band aid and a phantom boo-boo.

Debbie made a great dinner tonight... stir-fried pesto shrimp, collards with onion and fake bacon and an Italian-y rice and beans. Luca will eat ANYTHING with pesto on it, so he devoured the shrimp and we even managed to convince him to eat some greens. The fake bacon did it.

It's barely 8pm and I am ready for bed.

Wednesday, September 17, 2008

Wednesday, September 10, 2008


Luca came down with a high fever on Monday night - so we've spent the last two days tending to our patient. Blueberry smoothies, peppermint oil baths, cold compresses and lots of liquids did the trick during the day - but we caved at night and did the Tylenol/Motrin dance. I am all for a allowing a fever to do it's job - but I am the first to admit to being freaked out in anticipation of his fever spiking in the night. It got as high as 104 this time - and I am still traumatized by the last virus when it got above 105. I spent all of Monday night (into Tuesday morning) feeling his head and taking his temp. Consequently, I was a zombie yesterday. But - it worked out okay because this is what he did for much of the day...

Today was much better. He got up to 102, but never higher. He ate a bit, got ALL of his energy back and refused to nap. His activity level today more than made up for yesterday. He couldn't bring himself to lay quietly on the sofa, even when tempted with a video. There was just too much to do...

We'll see how he does tonight - but I think he's on the mend.

Sunday, September 07, 2008

Timeline - Sunday Afternoon

We spent the morning lazing about - grazing on breakfast, reading the paper and dust-busting dog hair. And - speaking of the dog - Debbie and Luca gave Blaise a long over-due bath.

Inside (in the air-conditioning) I tackled some laundry.

After Blaise's bath, Debbie and Luca joined me inside and the three of us made use of the ripe bananas and tried out a new recipe for banana bread.

Debbie went to get a hair cut, Luca took and a nap and I did...


...more laundry.

The banana bread came out of the oven. 

Luca woke up and we sampled a bit.

It got good reviews.

Now Luca is playing some made-up game where he is yelling things like "stop thief!"' and "come on, Penny!" and throwing balls all over the living room.

And, I am still doing laundry.

Saturday, September 06, 2008

more beach...

Mama and Mommy


Lori and Ida AND Bella and Sophie

Wet dog